when some one hurts you...

Those who hurt us is all about what that person is going through, and what battle they are having internally both in the mind and in their heart. ~ Wanda Arroyo 

Maturity is accepting full responsibility for my actions/behavior and not blame others for my choices that have formed my reality. ~ Mary Davison 

You know an understanding doesn’t necessarily have to be with the offender. It can be one with yourself, that their situation is that your relationship is just not worth the drama of hurting them back. 

The wisdom of maturity, sets you free from the need to react. Accepting
that when someone hurts you, they do not have the power to hurt you, you choose to feel hurt. Their bad behaviour is their issue to solve. ~ Caitriona Doran 

You don’t have to hurt back because I have seen it so many times that what comes around also goes around right back to them. ~ Barbara Prete 

Maturity doesn’t mean to have to continue to bend over backwards for those who are so selfish that continue to take and hurt. This time I choose to forgive without an apology but I also choose to move on and let go. ~ Saireva Jakob 

When you try to understand why you feel hurt before you blame someone else for your feeling to understand if they really abused you (physically, sexually, psychologically, socially, etc.) or if you are just being jealous, prejudice, demanding something unreasonable, not respecting their boundaries or right to say no, etc. or even misinterpreting the situation. ~ Mari Cammarata